"Monk" and domestic violence

In today's episode of Monk :

Captain Stottlemeyer is provoked into violence by a man who claims to be having an affair with the captain's wife (the provocation is intended to contaminate a crime scene and allow him get away with murder). Captain Stottlemeyer is required to go to anger management classes as a result. He is told to say 'these things happen' when he gets angry to stop him doing anything else and that anger is only a feeling and as an adult he doesn't have to act on that feeling. This is only from a story, but is exactly the kind of advice you would get at an anger management session.

What about women who get mad at their husbands for having affairs, or just for wanting a divorce and respond by cutting up the husbands clothes, or vandalising his car, etc.....? "anger is only a feeling and as an adult she doesn't have to act on that feeling".

Or women who kill their sleeping husbands because they are afraid of them? "fear is only a feeling and as an adult she doesn't have to act on that feeling". If you are in fear of your husband you have options, you don't have to kill him. Particularly not when he is sleeping - a perfect time to leave. Men have very few options if they want to leave an abusive wife. There are approximately 478 shelters for battered wives in the UK (1). There are only 2 domestic violence shelters that will accept men. Only 1 is solely for men and their children.

The most extreme statistics regarding proportion of victims of domestic violence in the UK come from counts of reported crime. They indicate that men are victims in about 15% of reported domestic violence crimes(2). But shelters that accept men account for only 0.4% of the total. The yearly rate for domestic violence is 4.2% for men and 4.2% women (British Crime Survey 1996, reported in HORS 191).

Women's Aid run most of the domestic violence shelters in the UK. They do now admit that at least some men are victims of domestic violence, but none of their centres will admit men. Most will not even admit women with sons over the age of 14. The only shelters that do admit men are run by The Mankind Initiative (see my links) which is not mentioned at all on the Women's Aid website.

More statistics on domestic violence can be found HERE. The reality is more complicated than feminist organisations like Women's Aid would have you believe.


(1) Women's aid:
http://www.womensaid.org.uk/core/core_picker/download.asp?id=104

(2) Women's aid: http://www.womensaid.org.uk/landing_page.asp?
section=0001000100050009

Free Speech on the internet

Feminists want to ban men's rights blogs from the Internet. They are campaigning for 'hate speech' laws that they can use to implement a ban. Their own hate speech would of course never be considered.

Don't let them.

Join the Blue Ribbon Online Free Speech Campaign!

New Blog

Men's Rights

I'm not sure if he intends to do any more than link to other men's rights blog, but if that's all - kudos to him anyway.

New Link - WDLT

I have added a link to the counter feminists' new blog.

It is simply a collection of refernces to the horrible things some women will do.

You might think this is simply female bashing, but there is more to it than that. Many feminist campaigns and arguments are based on the idea that 'women do no wrong'. To counter those type of arguments you need examples of cases where women have done wrong, however distasteful such a blog might appear to be.

Link to WDLT

This is his explanation of why he started this blog.

Some sense from a woman about rape.

Reformed Idealism - Not My Local Footballer!

And to follow that up - all charges dropped: Reformed Idealism - Update: Cristiano Ronaldo

Ronaldo will not face rape charge

Feminists are still pushing for increased rape convictions by removing basic legal rights such as "presumed innocent until proven guilty". Feminists now want men to prove they are innocent, rather than be proved guilty. They have already managed to get anonymity for 'rape victims' - i.e. all accusers, giving much more scope for false accusations.

Another source of 'accidental' pregnacies

I talked about 'accidental' pregnancies in two earlier posts Lying to get pregnant. and A Male Pill

The Eternal bachelor provides another example of where 'accidental' pregnancies come from:

I seduced my future husband to hide my love child. But I have no regrets.

"Despite learning the truth a few years ago, Amy, an 18-year-old college student, still calls another man Dad - my ex-husband Tom. We were married by the time she was born and he has no idea he's not her real father.

It's a deceit I - and now Amy - have carried out to protect the people we love, and although I'm not proud of having lied, I have no regrets about conceiving a child with the married man I had an affair with. "

Of course that's not the only possible scenario. It could just as easily be a married woman having an affair after getting married, then not telling her husband that the baby is not (or might not be) his. We've all heard the jokes about the milkman.

Of course if there had been a male pill available, and Tom was using it he would not have been fooled by this woman's trickery and deceit. Even if he hadn't been taking the pill the knowledge of it's existence might have prevented the woman from trying to dupe him into 'fatherhood'.

Feminist's main objection to the male pill is that women might not trust their partners to remember to take it. A fairly pathetic argument given all the contraceptive methods already available to women. If a woman is really that worried about her partners memory, she has lots of other options she can choose unilaterally.

Could the feminist's real reason be more along the lines of protecting lying women like this one, so that they can extort money out of unsuspecting men?

The EOC is sexist

The Equal Opportunities Commission, is not really about equal opportunities. It is a feminist organisation masquerading until the label of 'Equality'. A common tactic for feminists. They like to pretend they are all about equality, but they only care about 'gender gaps' when it appears women are getting short changed.

I'm not the only one who thinks so.

Check out this post on a new UK blog: The Rights Of Man

More Links

Stand Your Ground

MENSACTIVISM.ORG - The wiki looks like a good idea to me.

World Fathers Union

Combatting Feminist Ms-Information on the Internet

Gabnet Antifeminism

DV Against Men

Men Empowerment

Indian Laws

Save Indian Family Foundation

Sex War

Masculinisme

Bird's Eye View

MGTOW Activism Blogn

An Irish Man Against Feminism

Easy Activism

This is something I did last night. It's very simple - anyone reading this could do the same thing.

I printed off 5 sheets of A4, with this on one side:



and this on the other:



Then just cut the sheets in half, and folded them so that 'Please Take One' was on the front.

I took the ten leaflets with me to a CEROC class, and left them in the men's toilets next to the sink. I left them there at 8:30, and when I checked at 10pm they were all gone.

There is already a lot of good material on the web, but it can be hard to find if you don't know exactly where it is. Maybe leaving a few leaflets like this can help some new men find these sites. You could do this yourself. You could leave them anywhere you go - at your local pub, at the shops, at the gym.... You don't need to have a website or blog of your own - just list a few of the best ones you know.